I have a close friend on Anti-Convulsive medication for Epilepsy?

she has been on the medication for approx. 40 years. She is
going through the menopause and was referred to hospital.
Doctors have warned her that the medication she is taking
(Phenobarbitone and Phenytoine) will do her harm in later life.
They have suggested changing her medication. But she does
not know what to do. These days we here of Death in Epilepsy
and we are wondering if these new tablets would be the cause.
She has to go back to hospital middle of March and has to make
a decision by then. Help! The doctors have suggested that she
gets as much advise as she can from internet, friends, family etc.
But its a tall order. She has not been feeling well, but has put that
down the the early stages of menopause. And feels sometimes
that she is going to have an epileptic fit. She hasn,thad one for six
years. Any advice would be appreciated.